Letting Kids Fail
Currently I am reading the book Sacred Parenting by Gary L. Thomas. So far, what has been most impacting to me, is having our kids go through hard times, even fail, in order to shape their character and build confidence in themselves. As parents, sometimes I believe the opposite is true. If someone makes fun of my child I need to make sure their self-esteem is still in tact, or I feel this need to always be protecting them. Obviously I (Nor any super-mom) cannot protect my kids from failing and hard things happening.
I saw this first hand today while helping my daughter roller skate. For some reason she wanted to do this, and I was there to help her. She had her pads and helmet on, yet I had to stand beside her and catch her if she fell. It is crazy that when I was growing up, we could roller skate without helmets! At one point Ayla said, “Mommy I can do it by myself.” What a wake up call to me to realize that it is even good for her to be independent and maybe even fall a few times.
I am continuing to pray that God would give me the wisdom and ability to be able to let them learn, fail, and grow as they should. Even though I know it is best, it still isn’t easy to let them fail. What are your thoughts? I’d love to hear them.